Today I want to talk about planting seeds. You can intend in advance for how things are going to proceed in a way that feels good to you. You can do it on a regular basis about anything. It’s something that you can practice for a few seconds everyday and it will make a huge impact on your life.
So let’s talk about the new year coming up. I encourage you to take time to think about how it’s going to feel this year. What are you going to accomplish and how is it going to feel. What is it that you really want and how is it going to feel? Spend some time thinking about how you want to feel this year before the new year even begins.
Don’t just list a to do list or write down main accomplishments that you want to achieve but instead think about how you are going to feel when the activity or task goes the way you want it to. What’s that going to feel like? And practice feeling it now. That’s the important piece. Doing so will help you to enjoy life more as you create it in advance letting how you want to feel lead the way.
As another example, most of the kids are returning to school from fall break soon and one of the questions I hear quite if often is, “Why does school have to be so boring?” or “Why does school have to be so hard?” Let’s talk about the way to prepare to have a much better time at school.
First of all, there is always something positive to focus on. There are interesting people to meet. Fun projects to complete. Every day in school there’s something interesting or fun. And you can give that all of your attention and feel very good about those projects and those experiences and focus on what you like about school.
Or, if there is nothing you like there, you can focus on the purpose of school for you. Do you like to learn? Do you like to consider lots of different ideas? Do you like to be social? Is it a place to hang out while parents are at work? Do you think school will do anything to help you get what you want in life? Find some positive angle for what your purpose is for school and focus there.
Even if it’s a short part of the day or only a broad purpose that you can find to like at first. Focus on it. Don’t give tons of attention to things that you don’t like. Just note, “Oh, there’s that thing again,” and change your focus. “Well if I don’t like that then what do I like?” And think about it, focus on it, feel what you do like, talk about what you do like, and forget about what you don’t like. De-emphasize it by thinking about it less and less and not talking about it. There are solutions out there. There are opportunities to feel just how you want to feel about learning. You will become aware of them as you increase your skill and discipline at focusing more and more on what you like and how you want to feel.
Creating intentionally in advance is how to establish an attitude of abundance and a positive mindset. What you really want is more of what you like. So focus more on what you like. Minimize time spent thinking or talking about what you don’t like and tune into what you do like. Focus on what you intend to create. Give that your full attention.