As you’re going around town working to get stuff done, did you know that it’s not so much what you say or how you say it but how you vibe that determines how your interactions with others will go? People are tremendously perceptive. Many are experts in body language and decoding a vibe, and they don’t even know it. You can be certain that others sense your vibe well before they can even make a logical argument to explain what they think of you.

Can you do anything about what others think of you? Should you even try? No, don’t even try, not directly anyway. Taking direct action meant to control what others think of you is a waste of energy. Instead, use the indirect method by working on your vibration. Create time and space to focus on feeling good. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time, less than 5 minutes. And it doesn’t have to be a big production either. In fact, the simpler the better!

Now some people might think that I’m talking about meditating every day. For many that could work. Meditation is a great way to bump the vibration up for some people. Personally, I find meditation a better tool to get more in touch with intuition. Reaching for the feeling of love and appreciation and the sweetness of life during meditation is a great way to use daily meditation too.

There are lots of other ways to feel your vibration soar each day, though. Listening to your favorite music works. Especially songs that you believe have a good beat and make you feel like enjoying life.

Getting outdoors is another great way to raise your vibe. Whatever you can do outside that helps you notice the beauty of nature and absorb the majesty of life. You could do an activity like fishing or hiking. You could just gaze at the mountains, trees, or oceans.

The Leading Questions Game is another simple option. Think of questions to ask yourself to get a good feeling response. Ask a question then give yourself a few seconds to come up with something. So you might say “Who can I appreciate right now?” or “What has been the happiest moment of my life so far?” or “If I felt like a powerful force for good right now, how would I feel.”

Make it a priority to take the time to raise your vibe intentionally for a few minutes each day. Find ways that work for you and you will find life easier and easier as you are received better by others. You’ll also notice that your timing is perfect more often.

Topic 1) define waking up

  • A process of becoming aware that you can be fully engaged in life and spiritually connected to your Higher Self / God / Love on a moment by moment basis.
  • Times when you feel spiritually connected and in the flow happen more often. In between those phases are times when you are back to feeling human/ego again.
  • The pace picks up and you find yourself feeling whole more and more often but there are still those times when you “crash.”

Topic 2) thoughts on crashing

  • Surprisingly enough, there are painful crashes along the path for a time though they shorten in duration. Recovery comes faster and faster but it seems you shouldn’t be able to be knocked down like that.
  • The pain of crashing is due to the difference between how your average vibe raises yet being in the dumps is a low vibe. For a while, the increasing difference between levels causes pain as habitual reactions echo then begin to fade away.

Topic 3) thoughts on self-nurturing

  • The more you practice getting yourself out of a crash with self-nurturing, the more ideas and ways you have to recover and you learn to enjoy R&R time.

It all begins with what you think of yourself because that affects how you feel about yourself and what will come to you as a result.

Positive transformations can take place within your body. There are solutions around for you. If you can tap into a new positive expectation, you will be brought to ideas that you had not noticed before or you may try something again with a whole new attitude that makes all the difference. Or, on an even bigger scale, you may find a new understanding as to why being slowed down with a difficulty with your body provides you with an experience that helps you develop a needed skill or have a required experience in your life.

When you know what improvement you want in your body, you have a few choices. You can feel angry, depressed, or generally awful about yourself…or you can treat yourself as a child of the universe who is learning and you can cut yourself a break.

All that happened before is part of the process that brings you to now and that is all, just a step along the way. If you notice that you often look back and kick your own butt about stuff, try letting it go instead. You can be sure you did the best you could with the information you had at the time. So be kind to yourself. You are always automatically worthy of love. There is no shame. There is nothing to feel guilty about.

Move forward with inspiration knowing that you have always made the best move you were capable of at the time and you will continue to do the same. Now is the time to nurture yourself by controlling your focus. What matters is what happens next, and your results going forward are directly related to feeling good now.

Imagine how you will feel when you have what you want and choose to feel that way now. Get jazzed about all the experiences you want to have and what you want to create and go with that feeling as long as you can for a few minutes every single day. Daydream about the changes you wanted already being here. Do it with an attitude of fun. It’s so fun to play with ideas of what you can choose and what the transformation will mean for your life.

Appreciate vitality when you see it. Use beauty you see around you as a reason to feel good. Know that more vitality is coming to you when you can feel good if only for a little bit at first. Each time you practice you will become better and better at feeling good and appreciating your body.

The importance of being okay with slow results can’t be over-emphasized. If you allow yourself to reinforce feelings of frustration or anger at slow results you defeat your own purpose. Change can come and it may be at a snail’s pace but if you focus on the slow pace you get more of a slow-down. Instead, focus on the momentum, ideas you can use are coming faster and faster, it is getting easier and easier to maintain the good habits you intended. There is momentum and you are heading in a direction that will please you if you can remember to enjoy life from where you are right now. This moment will never come again.

“Is everything as urgent as your stress would imply?” –Carrie Latet

“What different lives we should lead if we take things by the minute!” –Gilbert-Ann Taylor

“In times of great stress or adversity, it’s always best to keep busy, to plow your anger and your energy into something positive.” –Lee Iacocca

“Hope is as cheap as despair.” –Proverb

“In times of stress, be bold and valiant.” –Horace

“They who live in worry invite death to hurry.” –Anonymous

“Men for the sake of getting a living forget to live.” –Margaret Fuller

“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.” –Chinese Proverb

Take Ownership

  • Your career is yours and yours alone. You have the power to create it and live it as an expression of your unique talents and energy.
  • Forget what other people think of your choices. Even though people often mean well, you will be the one putting in the hours so be selfish enough to do something you enjoy and to have fun with it!
  • Being yourself in your work gives power, creativity, and freedom. You are off track if you feel insecure or like a pretender at work.

Look Inside Yourself, You Know the Answers

  • Take note when you find yourself fully engaged in a work activity. If it feels as if you are in the zone, or plugged in and energized, or connected to something larger than yourself: Pay special attention.
  • Then describe it further…what are you liking about what you are doing? Is it this? Is it that? Keep asking yourself and you’ll know when you hit the answer that feels right.
  • Start general then get more specific in your description of what you like about what you are doing. For example, is it the communication or connection? Is it the performing or beautifying? Is it the helping or healing? Is it the organizing or administrating? Then add more detail by asking why.

Respect the Career Development Process

  • The beauty of a great career is in the way it unfolds.
  • Enjoy the present moment. Each small step adds up until you are absolutely ready for more.
  • Appreciate then forget when you felt lost or frustrated in your career. Through those times, you learned more about what you DO want.

Understand the Power of People

  • People can be powerful and brilliant in sharing their connections with others. Cherish and maintain your connections to tap into the power.
  • People can be dark, egotistical, and negative, but this is nothing compared to an individual in harmony with self. Recognize the negative as the weaker power and stay beyond it.
  • See and applaud the strengths of others as you do for yourself. Be a builder-upper who is generous with knowledge, info, and positive energy.

Be an Opportunity Bulldog

  • Take your individual strengths and mesh them into your public identity, and no one can take your place.
  • Research and understand the opportunities that exist because of the challenges in your field of expertise.
  • Present a passion for being or finding the solution and be unafraid of asking for the opportunity.

A few months ago, I had e-mail correspondence with someone I barely know who asked if I ever watched The Big Idea with Donnie Deutsch. When someone comes by with a little tip like that out of nowhere, I pay attention. My experience shows that there is probably something I need to see there. So I responded that I had not, and thanked her for the referral. I watched some episodes, and I enjoyed the show. I also noticed an interesting phenomenon.

On the show, one of the main things Donnie Deutsch does is to try and get insight with each person featured on the show about exactly where and how they got that big idea. This makes total sense because that is the name of the show, after all, so people really should expect that question. Nevertheless, each time he asks it the person pauses for a moment and looks as if they are processing that question and aren’t quite sure what to say. As if they are saying to themselves, “Hey, that is a good question, where did that idea come from?” And, it is a pertinent question because essentially Donnie is trying to educate and coach people in his audience to find their own big idea and go for it.

I think the reason that the question is difficult is because when people have a great idea, they are often fully engaged in whatever it is they’re studying at the time inspiration strikes. They just know that they were busy following their noses, uncovering clues, letting one thing lead to another, and it all seemed obvious at the time…until they get this question anyway. Then they want to be able to tell others how to do it so they try and retrace their steps.

Creativity is something that we all have if we can open to it. I think the first step for someone who is just sitting there with no idea at all but desiring one is to remove all barriers to getting into the flow of creativity. Creativity can’t occur while sitting in judgment of every thought that pops into your head. One has to open and be comfortable with the creative process. Some people are very good at tapping into their creative source consistently; others might have to be reminded to let go and play a little.

Begin by exploring things that catch your eye, just follow your nose a bit and see what happens. Once you have gathered some info, give yourself a rest and see what your wonderfully creative mind cooks up. When you feel a little kick of enthusiasm, you may be on to something.

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