Sports teaches you character, it teaches you to play by the rules, it teaches you to know what it feels like to win and lose —it teaches you about life. -Billie Jean King
Billie Jean King has it right regarding sports teaching about character and life. The player has the opportunity to face the anxiety (aka fear) and respond with integrity (aka love). Doesn’t mean they will but it also doesn’t mean they won’t learn to respond with integrity eventually even if a hard fall is required first. People are always learning even if they don’t mean to. Life is one big experiment that way.
Sports aren’t the only places to learn to face the fear and respond with integrity, of course. Lessons come for everyone through one life arena or another: family, school, health, relationships. We can choose to be authentic in our daily interactions and activities. There are opportunities on a daily basis for each of us to choose integrity and good reasons for doing so even if it means “losing” in the interim. The biggest reasons for doing so are to know your true self, to stretch your own personal limits, and to live the whole-hearted beauty of an authentic life.
People can be real jerks sometimes. I know you know that. Just because someone else is choosing to feel miserable or to be negative doesn’t mean you have to let that invade your energy level. You don’t have to focus on that. You can maintain your vibrational position so that they don’t bring you down to their’s. Here’s the trick: Use their negativity as a reminder.
Use it as reminder of how you don’t want to be and why. Hint: One has to be feeling pretty bad to be so negative.
Remember that they are free to create just like you are.
Use it to remind you of the opposite emotion or vibration and how you do want to feel. This is a technique called “Pivoting” that Esther Hicks coined years ago.
Use it to be thankful of the wisdom you have about how the universe works. Hint: Think Law of Attraction.
Use it to set intentions for how you want to feel going forward.
Use it to remember the importance of controlling your focus.
For example, if someone treats you badly or is negative or gruff, instead letting them dominate the airwaves, use them as a cue in your own mind to think, “Boy, do I appreciate that I’m not miserable or upset or angry like that person.” And then maybe think something like, “That reminds me that I always want to be kind, that I want to be happy, gentle, and kind,” and “It makes me appreciate the goodness I notice in most people.” This reaction is better then getting hung up focusing on their negativity which would certainly bring your vibe down and cause you to notice more negativity in the future.
To the extent that you can clear that type of negativity out of your zone, all the better but it’s not necessary. Even in ongoing relationships, it just takes one person shining brightly to dominate with positive vibes and uplift others by doing so. A big part of it is to realize that you don’t have control of them and what they are choosing to focus on. And, it takes unconditional love. They don’t have to be different in order for you to love them. Understand, they are doing the best they can in the moment, just like you are. Don’t even waste your energy trying to change them. Love them where they are. Keep a light focus if you don’t like what you see, or look the other way. Know they can rise to meet you on a higher level of vibration whenever they want to. They may want to sooner rather then later when they see how much fun you are having up there!
I notice those people who walk around being themselves with no concern of what others think. I find them so brave! When you start noticing those people fearlessly being themselves, it becomes so easy to contrast them with those who constantly hold themselves back for whatever reason. I can relate with those people who hold themselves back. I’ve been there and it was literally life-changing to really grasp what it is I have control over. Hint: It’s not what other people think! Stepping into your full personal power starts with something you may not have considered before too. Hint: It rhymes with unconditional lelf-sove. We are talking about one of the most powerful ways we can be of service in the world.
Enthusiasm is such a major hint as to what you are most interested in. You might even consider it a little breadcrumb trail for better understanding your own unique purpose in life. It is possible that focusing on what you are enthusiastic about can help provide life purpose clarity very fast. Enthusiasm is a frequent and easily recognized state of being. Enthusiasm can be generated simply by the thought of something you look forward to. If you can hone in on exactly what it is that has you feeling enthusiastic, you may recognize an important core principle to bring into your consciousness, into your life, more and more.