Bliss or Bust Formula

The Bliss or Bust Formula is a process that will help you experience what you want in life. Learn to apply it and you will perceive the world differently. The next step becomes so easy and the feeling of overwhelm vanishes. Try it and watch the magic happen.

Step #1: How do you want to feel?

There are so many emotions to experience. It’s wonderful to feel happy, joyful, youthful, energetic, sexy, athletic, beautiful, funny, calm, confident, connected, creative. We could go on and on. This is the juice of life! The reason any of us want anything is because of how having it will make us feel. The trick is to identify what you want to feel more of and then intentionally practice it. Use your imagination. Plan in advance to notice and enjoy the feelings you want.

For example, if you know that you love to feel serene, you can easily have more of that feeling. Begin by planning to feel serene. Tell yourself, “I look forward to feeling serene more and more. It’s going to be so nice. I love to feel serene.”

Take notice of all the serene things around you as you go through the next several hours. Now that you have clarity that what you want is to feel serene, be still and listen for it…feel for it. You will find yourself spontaneously feeling good several times a day. Take a second or two to spotlight that feeling when it comes around.

Step #2: Feel it.

Say to yourself, “Ah! I’m feeling so good right now. I love to feel good. I love to feel serene. I love this feeling right now, and I look forward to feeling this way more and more.”

Anytime you think of it, intentionally feel serene. You can look forward to feeling serene more and more. Imagine and observe serene insects and animals as often as possible if only for a few seconds at a time. Smile at them. They are here to remind you that what you really want is to feel serene.

Step #3: Take action when inspired.

Learn to notice the feeling of inspiration. Recognizing inspiration to act will help you complete the next step easily and with perfect timing. Contrast that with pushing yourself forward with the brute force of discipline only and you can easily recognize the difference.

There is a distinction to be made here between the feeling of inspiration which feels like a complete idea and subtle momentum to move versus inner dialog which feels worrisome and urgent. Inspiration is a subtle, calm, and fearless vibe. While inner dialog is a loud, urgent, and worrisome vibe.

Be brave and begin listening more and more for the subtle voice. Move with inspiration. When you are tuned in to inspiration, there is no second guessing or devil’s advocate argument going on in your mind. You just know it and you feel the impulse to take action.

When you move forward with inspiration on your side, things that once seemed overwhelming now become very flowing and easy. You can plan ahead to feel inspired too. Be it about what you need to get done in a day or a certain problem you want to solve (see step #1).

#4 Only positive thoughts in your mind.

Spend less and less time shaming yourself, feeling guilty, feeling sorry for yourself, worrying what others think, and/or generally looking at the negative side of things. Recognize those thoughts for the worthless mind clutter that they are and let them go. Get quicker and quicker at shutting those thoughts down by dropping them. Don’t fight them. Just give them a nod, smile, and let them go.

There are many different things you can try to stop the energy-draining, resistance-building, mind clutter of negative thought. Following are some ideas to experiment with:

  • Ask your Higher Self to remove anxiety and worry from you, or simply to fill you with bliss (which trumps negativity every time if you can allow it).
  • Have a phrase at the ready to release yourself from the struggle. Say to yourself, “Baby, you don’t need it” or “Easy does it.”
  • Listen to your favorite songs and turn them up. Let the music heal you.
  • Find a good place to sing, cry, or yell it out.
  • Exert your body with exercise or divert your mind with games.
  • Do a micro-meditation. Close your eyes and call for what you want to feel. For example, “I want to feel my patience right now,” or “I want to feel my love right now.” Then breathe and feel for it.

#5 Only positive words from your mouth.

Choose which words you say and what stories you tell and repeat wisely. Speak more and more about what you look forward to and what you enjoy. You spread bliss like this! Others may hear your words and feel the freedom and flow of inspiration too. But, no big deal if they don’t. Your main concern needs to be thinking and speaking about what you want and what you enjoy. It’s a habit that will enhance your life. It just happens to make you a force for good too.

Stress is a normal part of life. Still, like anything else, too much can be harmful to not only our mental faculties but also our physical health. It is important that we reduce and control the amount of stress in our lives.

The basic foundation of minimizing the harmful effects of stress is to eat good feeling food, move and stretch the body regularly, and adhere to a good sleep routine that leaves you well-rested. You must figure out how best to fit your unique needs in these areas. When you do, this important foundation will keep your body more robust and healthy despite stress.

Learning to let your mind free of stresses and worries is also an important stress buster. Meditation and quiet contemplation are two methods of reducing stress. If you’re not into meditation, spend a half hour or so each night reading a good book in a comfortable chair or take up an enjoyable hobby. Anything that distracts you from the concerns of the day and allows you a chance to decompress can be a worthwhile activity.

Go for a walk in the park or get a pet. Get a dog and take the dog for a walk in the park. A walk outdoors in the fresh air can do wonders for reducing stress, as can a companion animal. It likely wouldn’t hurt to combine the two if you’re so inclined.

Play games. Card games. Board games. Video games. Whatever floats your boat. You could also try puzzles. Putting a jigsaw puzzle together may be a good way to spend your time. It’s hard to worry about work when you’re trying to find a matching piece! Or, do a crossword puzzle, word find, or sudoku.

If you’re artistic, you could paint, draw, or even just doodle. You could try needle crafts, sand art, sculpture, wood carving, sewing or whatever suits your interests.

Take time to listen to music or watch television. Take an evening and go out for dinner and a movie. See a play. Go to a sporting event.

The important thing is to take some time out for yourself. Find something that works for you and remember to take time to do it. Relaxing and recharging are important!

Practice Being Organized

We all face some amount of stress in our lives. Some stress is caused by situations beyond our control, making it all the more important to do what we can to reduce stress in the circumstances we do control.

One thing within our control is our level of organization.

While on the face of it, organization may seem to have little to do with stress levels, a lack of organization will prove otherwise in a stressful situation.

If you’re under pressure to find an item in a stressful situation, imagine how much more stressed you will become when you cannot locate it.

As you shuffle through papers, folders and drawers, your frantic searching may cause further disorganization, setting the stage for a later repeat of the situation. If instead, you can quickly locate what you need when you need it, your stress levels will be lower than they might otherwise be.

Naturally, the first step is to do a thorough cleaning, eliminating clutter and organizing everything that is needed.

  • Make sure you organize everything in a manner that makes sense for you, using a system you will remember and stick with.
  • Once you get organized, stay organized.
  • Each day, set aside a few minutes to get your work area back in order.

Ideally and when practical, follow a pattern where you handle each item only once. For example, when you get a new document or piece of mail, read it and then act on it, file it, or recycle it. Eliminate the “I’ll do it later” items as much as possible. Too often, later never comes because of other more pressing needs. Additionally, you won’t suffer the stress of seeing a growing stack of “I’ll do it later” items sitting on your desk. You can better focus on the job at hand rather than being frustrated by the amount of work left to do.

Being better organized will not eliminate stress, but it can help keep it at reduced levels. Plus, it makes for a better and easier home and workplace, so there is no downside. Get organized and reap the benefits of increasing your productivity and reducing your stress level.

Remember to Breathe

Feeling a little stress is a normal part of the working day but when stress gets to be too much it can affect your judgment causing you to make rash decisions. Or, it can affect you physically causing tension in your muscles, increased heart rate, or aches and pains.

The key is to keep stress at a manageable level. One way to do this is with a simple breathing exercise.

  • Sit still in a relaxed position with your back straight.
  • Clear your mind as much as possible.
  • Breathe in slowly, for a deep breath.
  • Hold, but only as long as is comfortable.
  • Breathe out slowly.
  • Hold.
  • Breathe in.
  • Hold.
  • Breathe out.
  • Hold.

Repeat often. Take a few seconds here and there. Use a simple breathing exercise on a regular basis to help lower your stress level.

The Rest Movie

“There are two things which will make us happy in this life if we attend to them. The first is never to vex ourselves about what we cannot help; and the second is never to vex ourselves about what we can help.” –Anonymous

“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a bountiful crop.” –Ovid

“Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under trees on a summer’s day, listening to the murmur of the water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time.” –Sir John Lubbock

“A ruffled mind makes a restless pillow.” – Charlotte Brontë

“Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths.” –Etty Hillesum

SHOW NOTES:

Often we think other people are responsible for how we perceive them. Of course that’s not true since we are the only ones responsible for where we focus and how we interpret whatever data we take in. That’s something we can really use in our favor! It just takes a determination to focus on what can be appreciated and nothing else, which gets easier and easier with practice.

We all have different intentions for our lives, different lessons we want to learn, and that’s okay. There are some on the same path and there are some on different or even completely opposite paths. Especially with loved ones and close friends, you may notice particular ideals they have that are surprisingly resistant to your attempts to coach or teach them otherwise. We can let them be. They are most likely working on exactly what they intended to work on. The clock is not broken. That’s the thing with life lessons, they take time to learn.

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INTRO-Welcome to the SparksCast. This is episode number #005 on January 30, 2014. In this SparksCast, I talk a little about: amping up your use of intuition in the journey of your life and a bit about what I call the myth of the right and wrong choices. Thanks so much for listening. I’m your host, Stevie Puckett broadcasting from SparksPress.com and Virginia Beach, VA.

PART ONE: Today I want to talk about intuition. You can learn to tune into and trust your intuition on a consistent basis. You can move through your day always connected to your intuition and higher mind. In fact, I highly recommend it! You can feel more confident and in touch with your personal power by doing so. Your intuition can help you solve complex problems and make important choices with a calm mind at it’s highest creative potential. The reason I say that is because you have to be in a relatively serene state of mind to distinguish your intuition from your fear based inner dialogue. You’ll gain clarity of mind from the daily practice of tuning in to your intuition, not to mention the powerful ally you gain from learning to tap into your own higher consciousness.

The place to begin is to set the intention to gain skill in hearing your intuitive voice. Next, start getting clear on what your regular mental chatter sounds like. Especially if you haven’t had any experience with meditation or if meditation hasn’t appealed or worked for you as of yet. It is so easy to identify that lower vibing, fear-based, inner dialogue. You know, it’s the one that shames you for not doing or being better, or tries to work you into a frenzy about what other people would think, or generally nags you about obligations often with a sarcastic tone. Once you start recognizing that mental chatter for the mind clutter that it is, you can learn to let it go and turn your focus away from it. You can allow your mind to quiet down so that you can hear the voice that re ally matters, the voice of your own intuition.

You will learn the feeling of you intuitive voice once you make room for it. The thing about the intuitive voice is that it is very quiet and subtle until you learn to watch for it. It is a kind whisper compared to the loud bossiness of regular mental chatter. Intuition feels calm and complete…confident even. You just know everything will work out alright when you are tuned in to intuition.

PART TWO: There are many ways your intuition can get a message to you. You will start to pick them up once you’ve learned to quiet your mental chatter. You might notice a certain song gets stuck in your head out of no where or when listening to music you might notice some words suddenly get highlighted and connect to a problem you’ve focused on recently. Or, you might notice images that seem to get highlighted or brought into particular focus for some reason you might not be clear on…or you might click the image straight to the answer you’ve been seeking. Someone who speaks to you could say certain words that bridge a connection for you, or you might just feel a tingle in your body that lets you know an idea is resonating. Look for these types of signs and don’t be afraid to say to yourself, “I note the emphasis on blah right now…what does that mean?” Sometimes your intuition will supply the answer and you can begin to develop a standard vocabulary with and about your intuition. If this idea appeals to you, I suggest you have a standard way to record what you learn in a journal or in voice recordings you leave for yourself. Whatever works for you. I personally like Evernote, which is kind of like a electronic notebook that you can use online or on your phone, and use it to capture all my intuitions and ideas. You can learn more at Evernote.com.

Anyway you can develop this vocabulary with your intuition. For example, it is nice to have signals lined out for “yes” and “no” that you can use for follow up questions. Maybe you can ask your intuition to warm-up or stimulate your right hand for a yes answer and warm-up or stimulate your left hand for a no answer, things like that. If you know or learn astrology or tarot cards, those images can be useful as pieces of your intuitive language too…or colors, or rhythms, or scenes from movies, whatever works for you.

Intuition is so subtle and quick though. The importance of learning to quiet the energy diverting mental chatter cannot be over-emphasized so definitely start there. And realize too that intuition is often delivered in the form of a feeling. So pay attention to how you are feeling at any given moment especially if you are looking for an intuitive connection.

PART THREE: So here are a couple of exercise you can try. One is called The Intuitive Walkabout. You essentially take a little stroll through your home listening for information from your intuition. You can have a question on your mind or you can just intend a pleasant experience of noticing what is most important to you. Notice urges to stop or change directions or ideas about what rooms to visit and where to look. Just see what catches your attention. Focus there for a moment to see what ideas come to mind. Quiet your mental chatter and listen. Have your journal ready to capture ideas or possible solutions to problems you have been contemplating.

The purpose of this exercise is to notice what it feels like to connect to your intuition. This is a calm almost meditative experience. Do it during a downtime when you don’t have to rush off to anywhere and there are no time constraints. Though the exercise doesn’t need to last long, only a few minutes really, it is important that you feel grounded and aren’t needing to rush off anywhere the first few times you try it. Being grounded is being fully present within your body. This happens quite naturally once you learn to let the mental chatter that tends to knock one off balance go.

Here is another exercise to try sometime when you have two important options you are considering. It’s the Flip A Coin exercise. Designate heads to one of the choices and tails to the other choice. Then flip a coin and notice how you feel once you see which choice won. How you feel as a result of the flip is your intuition at work. It suddenly becomes quite clear how you feel about the option that won and maybe even what was better about the other choice. This exercise of taking that one small action can really tune you in to how you would feel about the choices rather then just logically thinking them through using your mind only. How you feel about the decision is much more predictive of how you will do with that decision once you’ve kicked it off into action.

PART FOUR: All that happened before is part of the process that brings you to now and that is all, just a step along the way. There are no right or wrong choices. There is no shame. If you notice that you often look back and kick your own butt about stuff, try letting it go. You can be sure you did the best you could with the info you had at the time. You can also try switching your thinking to something more relevant — like how you want to feel now. The past does not deserve any of your present focus unless you can use past memories to help you feel good now. For example, remembering how you felt during especially joyous experiences in your life, or remembering times you’ve felt certain ways that you want to feel again: like when you’ve felt lucky, adventurous, inspired, sexy, or proud. Those memories can be useful going forward.

Most of us have been taught to ignore our emotions, or to control our emotions, or that emotions are uncontrollable. But actually, tuning in to how you feel in order to adjust your focus and your thinking so that you feel good is the best use of emotions. What you focus on and how you think about it directly affects how you feel. So take note of how you feel periodically throughout the day. Doing so is like taking a measurement that helps you adjust your focus and your thinking so that you feel good…and feeling good is of utmost importance. And if you’ve been believing that you have made some wrong choices, maybe it’s time to realize that going forward you will be doing the best you can, as you always have, and that focusing on past choices doesn’t serve you now. Instead focus on how you want to feel going forward and know that you will continue to do the best you can with the info you have, as always.

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