There are many ways to define personal power. Here are some to consider.
Now, of course, power can be used in a positive way or in a negative way. It has been said that being forceful is the weakest power of all. Brute strength often only yields negativity and resentment; and only short term gain. A much stronger use of power is to use charm and positive influence to help others build their power. This is a much longer-lasting strategy with easily seen benefits including increasing the power of the initial charmer!
Be an observer of yourself throughout your days. Take periodic attitude checks. Begin to recognize when you feel apathy, negativity, or just generally stuck. Use those feelings as a signal to alert you that you have lost touch with your personal power. Once you are able to recognize what it feels like when your power is depleted, then you can start to experiment and find what works to make you feel powerful again. At that point, you will be cued into a key cycle that you can use to manage yourself to success.
Frustration seems like such an impotent emotion: you’re too spun up to continue effectively, and you’re too on edge to just rest and wait.
Left unchecked frustration can lead to stupid mistakes and embarrassment. Even more, frustration left unchecked can lead you right to your favorite unhealthy coping behavior. And frustration, in general, is just not a place abundant people tend to hang out. By “abundant people,” I mean people who are genuinely enjoying life.
Here’s the good news. You can make an intention to experience less frustration in your life. You can strategize how to do that and what you will do differently next time you’re frustrated. What are you going to do differently? I have some ideas that I share in this episode.
Giving people near and far the benefit of the doubt as often as possible about the little mundane things in life helps to make you a force for good and the World, in general, a better place.
In the final sum of things though, it probably helps you most of all. It helps to keep stress levels low and keeps you focused on more of what you want rather than fussing about all you see that you don’t appreciate.
It helps to realize in advance the kinds of relationship transactions you prefer and to appreciate them when you see them. You can also lean towards patience with others by knowing that everyone is doing the best they can at the moment, just like you are.