An ability to recognize and appreciate moments when you are satisfied is a basic first step to changing your life for the better. It is just magical to tune in to those satisfying moments. Start recognizing them and in no time they multiply. It is a powerful mindset for getting more of what you enjoy and letting go stress at the same time.
There are many ways to define personal power. Here are some to consider.
Now, of course, power can be used in a positive way or in a negative way. It has been said that being forceful is the weakest power of all. Brute strength often only yields negativity and resentment; and only short term gain. A much stronger use of power is to use charm and positive influence to help others build their power. This is a much longer-lasting strategy with easily seen benefits including increasing the power of the initial charmer!
Be an observer of yourself throughout your days. Take periodic attitude checks. Begin to recognize when you feel apathy, negativity, or just generally stuck. Use those feelings as a signal to alert you that you have lost touch with your personal power. Once you are able to recognize what it feels like when your power is depleted, then you can start to experiment and find what works to make you feel powerful again. At that point, you will be cued into a key cycle that you can use to manage yourself to success.
Frustration seems like such an impotent emotion: you’re too spun up to continue effectively, and you’re too on edge to just rest and wait.
Left unchecked frustration can lead to stupid mistakes and embarrassment. Even more, frustration left unchecked can lead you right to your favorite unhealthy coping behavior. And frustration, in general, is just not a place abundant people tend to hang out. By “abundant people,” I mean people who are genuinely enjoying life.
Here’s the good news. You can make an intention to experience less frustration in your life. You can strategize how to do that and what you will do differently next time you’re frustrated. What are you going to do differently? I have some ideas that I share in this episode.