Stevie Puckett

Category: Mindset

  • Relationship Habits and the Power of Non-reaction

    • Relationships are not about what you do together but how you feel together.
    • There is a lot of power in non-reaction for changing relationship habits.
    • The world gets smaller and smaller if you decide you don’t want to go out because of the way others make you feel.
    • What are we here really to learn and teach?
    • TED Talk by a teen about what he wants to be when he grows up. It is simple, he wants to be happy.

  • Relationships and Focus: Creating Satisfying Relationships

    • Feeling good is powerful, and it is the place you must start to improve your relationships.
    • You will immediately feel heightened freedom and energy when you release others to their own creation and focus on yours.
    • People benefit from being around your positive energy almost as much as you do by allowing it!
    • You can be an example of a person who focuses on the positive as you go through your life feeling good and being secure in your personal power most of the time.
    • Make room for inspired action in all your relationships. Action that will result in new and better interactions and connections with others for you to enjoy.
    • It’s so important to be disciplined about what you are focusing on about other people in order to have satisfying relationships.
    • Don’t let your mind obsess about how someone is so awful, and don’t dwell on those things that you find annoying about someone else. Instead, cut them a break…no, cut yourself a break!
    • You have to control your focus to feel good. In fact, it is the only thing you do have control of. You can’t control others or at-the-moment situations you find yourself in, but you can control what you think about and what you give your attention to.
    • Every accomplishment and thing of beauty comes about because somebody believed in somebody. Believe in those around you. Believe in the best of them to see more of it.
    • And believe in yourself and your ability to keep your focus on what you enjoy and want to see more of…then look for it.

  • Powerful People: Relationships and Going with the Flow

    As you are walking around town working to get stuff done, did you know that it’s not so much what you say or how you say it but how you vibe that determines how your interactions with others will go? People are tremendously perceptive. Many are experts in body language and decoding a vibe, and they don’t even know it. You can be certain that others sense your vibe well before they can even make a logical argument to explain what they think of you.

    Can you do anything about what others think of you? Should you even try? No, don’t even try, not directly anyway. Taking direct action meant to control what others think of you is a waste of life energy. Instead, use the indirect method by working on your own vibration. Create time and space to focus on feeling good. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time…less than 5 minutes, really. And it doesn’t have to be a big production either. In fact, the simpler and less obtrusive, the better!

    Now some people might think that I’m talking about meditating every day. Meditation is a great way to bump the vibration up for some people. Personally, I find meditation a better tool for quieting mental chatter to get more in touch with intuition and tune in to your higher self. Reaching for the feeling of love and appreciation and the sweetness of life during meditation is a great way to use daily meditation to lift your vibration, too though.

    There are lots of ways to feel your vibrations soar each day. Listening to your favorite music for a few minutes…especially good beat, high flying, enjoy life type songs.

    Getting outdoors is another great way to raise your vibe. Whatever you can do outside that helps you notice the beauty of nature and absorb the majesty of life. You can do an activity like fishing, or hiking, or you could just gaze at the mountains, trees, or oceans for a bit.

    I also like what I call the Leading Questions Game. Think of questions you can ask yourself to get a happy response. Have fun with it. Remember, this is a game. Ask a question, then give yourself a few seconds to come up with something. So you might say, “Who can I appreciate right now?” or “What has been the happiest moment of my life so far?” or “If I felt like a powerful force for good right now, how would I feel.”

    Make it a priority to feel your own vibration soaring for a few minutes each day. Allow the high vibe, make a space for it. Do so, and you will find day-to-day interactions flowing like never before.

    There are powerful people around us all the time. People who can either help us create a new and better story or people who will help us rehash our old story. Relationships are about the potential of the next part of your story. Through your relationships, you become more of who you are. Much of the juice of life comes from interactions with others too.

    Even as we live our lives and have our experiences, we can maintain a fundamental view of others as people with the potential to connect meaningfully with us. Through times of connection, we all learn something new about ourselves. Different teachers and mentors will come into our lives through our relationships.

    It’s human nature to look to others to make us feel good. One of the best feelings ever happens when we look into someone’s eyes as we laugh with them. It’s so easy to appreciate the moment when that happens. But remember, no one else is responsible for how you feel. Would you even want them to be? I don’t care to be that dependent on anyone! I don’t control how others feel, and no one but me controls how I feel.

    You are worthy, and your perspective is valid. You have a unique point of view, and it matters. You matter whether anyone else recognizes that at any moment or not. Do not be dependent on other people’s opinions of you for your own happiness!

    That being said, strive to make appreciation the whole point of your interaction with others. That appreciation will strengthen you, even though, at first glance, it might feel like something you are doing for someone else.

  • Love Notes From Intuition

    The earliest intuitive flash I remember was when I was around twelve years old. I remember it distinctly even now, decades later.

    We were taking a drive in the car. I was in the back seat behind dad. I was looking out the window watching the world go by, and mom and dad talked about funny things they’d seen. For some reason, I tuned in to the conversation right as dad was saying, “One of the funniest things I’ve ever seen…”.

    When he said those words, a picture formed in my mind’s eye of him laughing so hard he coughed when I passed through the living room as he was watching a movie on TV some time earlier. I don’t know now if it was days or months earlier. When that picture flashed in my mind’s eye though, I, for some reason, interrupted and finished his sentence by saying, “…was when Indiana pulled his gun out and shot the ninja who was swinging his sword around.”

    My dad looked me directly in the eye from the rearview mirror and he asked how I knew he was going to say that. He looked astounded. I shrugged my shoulders and said that I remembered him laughing at it when he watched it on TV. He and mom shared a look and it got quiet for a while after that. It didn’t seem like a big deal to me because it all seemed to make sense but me chiming in so loud and certain was out of character and thinking about it now it is remarkable that I was right about what he was going to say.

    my dad in the woods smiling at camera
    My dad.

    The most remarkable thing about that intuitive flash at that moment I received it was my dad’s reaction. It was priceless. It was a glorious moment my dad and I shared with curiosity and grins and one we relived a handful of times over the years.

    The most miraculous thing about it now is that it still lives so fresh in my mind all these years later, decades after my father’s death when he was 48 years old. Even now, I can have his grin again anytime I want to. A precious gift to be sure.

    Consider your intuition as notes from your higher self who loves you and is always supporting you. The ongoing development of your ability to trust your intuition is the most essential investment in your own self-development that you can make.

  • Think Yourself Lucky

    There was a recent study* where researchers asked people if they were lucky or not and then put them to a task. Those that said they were lucky were more likely to see the hint in the task that made the task simple and fast. Those that said they were not lucky were more likely to painstakingly follow the directions of the task without seeing the shortcut.

    Think and talk about yourself as being lucky. Notice every day all the ways that you are lucky. Maybe there are at least half-a-dozen or so ways you can list? All proof of how lucky you are. You will see the solutions that abound.