There are lots of people on the path of self-actualization as described in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. We can all learn to love and enjoy one another while at the same time learning to respect ourselves and be in the flow. We can stay in touch with who we truly are and not be convinced otherwise. It is not about striving to achieve based on what others expect. Don’t forget, you are a very old and wise being having an earthly experience. Everyone has the ability to become all that they can be through joy.