Stevie Puckett

Tag: presence

  • Relationship Habits and the Power of Non-reaction

    • Relationships are not about what you do together but how you feel together.
    • There is a lot of power in non-reaction for changing relationship habits.
    • The world gets smaller and smaller if you decide you don’t want to go out because of the way others make you feel.
    • What are we here really to learn and teach?
    • TED Talk by a teen about what he wants to be when he grows up. It is simple, he wants to be happy.

  • Powerful People: Relationships and Going with the Flow

    As you are walking around town working to get stuff done, did you know that it’s not so much what you say or how you say it but how you vibe that determines how your interactions with others will go? People are tremendously perceptive. Many are experts in body language and decoding a vibe, and they don’t even know it. You can be certain that others sense your vibe well before they can even make a logical argument to explain what they think of you.

    Can you do anything about what others think of you? Should you even try? No, don’t even try, not directly anyway. Taking direct action meant to control what others think of you is a waste of life energy. Instead, use the indirect method by working on your own vibration. Create time and space to focus on feeling good. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time…less than 5 minutes, really. And it doesn’t have to be a big production either. In fact, the simpler and less obtrusive, the better!

    Now some people might think that I’m talking about meditating every day. Meditation is a great way to bump the vibration up for some people. Personally, I find meditation a better tool for quieting mental chatter to get more in touch with intuition and tune in to your higher self. Reaching for the feeling of love and appreciation and the sweetness of life during meditation is a great way to use daily meditation to lift your vibration, too though.

    There are lots of ways to feel your vibrations soar each day. Listening to your favorite music for a few minutes…especially good beat, high flying, enjoy life type songs.

    Getting outdoors is another great way to raise your vibe. Whatever you can do outside that helps you notice the beauty of nature and absorb the majesty of life. You can do an activity like fishing, or hiking, or you could just gaze at the mountains, trees, or oceans for a bit.

    I also like what I call the Leading Questions Game. Think of questions you can ask yourself to get a happy response. Have fun with it. Remember, this is a game. Ask a question, then give yourself a few seconds to come up with something. So you might say, “Who can I appreciate right now?” or “What has been the happiest moment of my life so far?” or “If I felt like a powerful force for good right now, how would I feel.”

    Make it a priority to feel your own vibration soaring for a few minutes each day. Allow the high vibe, make a space for it. Do so, and you will find day-to-day interactions flowing like never before.

    There are powerful people around us all the time. People who can either help us create a new and better story or people who will help us rehash our old story. Relationships are about the potential of the next part of your story. Through your relationships, you become more of who you are. Much of the juice of life comes from interactions with others too.

    Even as we live our lives and have our experiences, we can maintain a fundamental view of others as people with the potential to connect meaningfully with us. Through times of connection, we all learn something new about ourselves. Different teachers and mentors will come into our lives through our relationships.

    It’s human nature to look to others to make us feel good. One of the best feelings ever happens when we look into someone’s eyes as we laugh with them. It’s so easy to appreciate the moment when that happens. But remember, no one else is responsible for how you feel. Would you even want them to be? I don’t care to be that dependent on anyone! I don’t control how others feel, and no one but me controls how I feel.

    You are worthy, and your perspective is valid. You have a unique point of view, and it matters. You matter whether anyone else recognizes that at any moment or not. Do not be dependent on other people’s opinions of you for your own happiness!

    That being said, strive to make appreciation the whole point of your interaction with others. That appreciation will strengthen you, even though, at first glance, it might feel like something you are doing for someone else.

  • Companies Are Not Your Friend

    Great points in this post I’m sharing about unrequited love, limiting your choices, disposable products, and shrinkflation.

    I find being shepherded along the pathways they want you to go particularly telling. That was my reason for leaving Facebook for the first time well over a decade ago. I must tell you though that pushing against doesn’t feel like a win either and I don’t like that the speed with which I have tried and left various platforms has only increased.

    There is an aspect of isolation to address because often it feels like I’m walking in a world with zombified others who participate more with their tech than with the people right next to them. Not to mention the phenomenon of being left out of the loop. But I stand on principle.

    As always I recognize expansion and contraction on repeat. I feel jubilation and wonder with most tech advances in my lifetime as I enjoy the increase in efficiency and knowledge followed shortly by the joy in rediscovering and embracing again a simpler way of doing things for various reasons that become apparent.

    The returning desire for an in-person real-connection community is the natural counterbalance to too much being out there in the social media not-really-real space. I’m shocked at how long it takes to become more apparent to most other people though I do believe we all are getting better at it and quickly. The key is to recognize when change is calling and go willingly and don’t dottle once the necessity is recognized.

  • Silence Option

    Speaking is intention in action. What you talk about demonstrates the direction of your momentum. What you choose to say out loud is revealing. You show where your focus is and where it generally hangs out by the words you put together and release into the world.

    Listen to yourself. Use what you say as additional feedback as to where your focus is. Consider, do your words reflect the love side of the scale or the fear side of the scale? Much better to practice silence if you discover that you are demonstrating the fear side of the scale more than you realized.

  • Using All Senses

    Intuitive guidance is always present and can be tapped every step of the way. Are you using it? Life will flow better for you when you do. Intuition is well recognized as the sixth sense. It’s a body sense just like sight, hearing, smell, touch, and taste. It’s like your whole body is an intuitive antenna. So using intuition is just a matter of paying attention to the incoming signals and learning how to interpret them. When you do, you will be using all your senses as you go through life.