Tag: emotions

  • Tune In and Adjust

    Most of us have been taught to ignore our emotions or to control our emotions, or that emotions are uncontrollable. But actually, tuning in to how you feel in order to adjust your focus and your thinking so that you feel good is the best use of emotions.

    What you focus on and how you think about it directly affects how you feel. So take note of how you feel periodically throughout the day. Doing so is like taking a measurement that helps you adjust your focus and your thinking so that you feel good. Feeling good is of utmost importance.

  • Powerful People: Relationships and Going with the Flow

    As you are walking around town working to get stuff done, did you know that it’s not so much what you say or how you say it but how you vibe that determines how your interactions with others will go? People are tremendously perceptive. Many are experts in body language and decoding a vibe, and they don’t even know it. You can be certain that others sense your vibe well before they can even make a logical argument to explain what they think of you.

    Can you do anything about what others think of you? Should you even try? No, don’t even try, not directly anyway. Taking direct action meant to control what others think of you is a waste of life energy. Instead, use the indirect method by working on your own vibration. Create time and space to focus on feeling good. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time…less than 5 minutes, really. And it doesn’t have to be a big production either. In fact, the simpler and less obtrusive, the better!

    Now some people might think that I’m talking about meditating every day. Meditation is a great way to bump the vibration up for some people. Personally, I find meditation a better tool for quieting mental chatter to get more in touch with intuition and tune in to your higher self. Reaching for the feeling of love and appreciation and the sweetness of life during meditation is a great way to use daily meditation to lift your vibration, too though.

    There are lots of ways to feel your vibrations soar each day. Listening to your favorite music for a few minutes…especially good beat, high flying, enjoy life type songs.

    Getting outdoors is another great way to raise your vibe. Whatever you can do outside that helps you notice the beauty of nature and absorb the majesty of life. You can do an activity like fishing, or hiking, or you could just gaze at the mountains, trees, or oceans for a bit.

    I also like what I call the Leading Questions Game. Think of questions you can ask yourself to get a happy response. Have fun with it. Remember, this is a game. Ask a question, then give yourself a few seconds to come up with something. So you might say, “Who can I appreciate right now?” or “What has been the happiest moment of my life so far?” or “If I felt like a powerful force for good right now, how would I feel.”

    Make it a priority to feel your own vibration soaring for a few minutes each day. Allow the high vibe, make a space for it. Do so, and you will find day-to-day interactions flowing like never before.

    There are powerful people around us all the time. People who can either help us create a new and better story or people who will help us rehash our old story. Relationships are about the potential of the next part of your story. Through your relationships, you become more of who you are. Much of the juice of life comes from interactions with others too.

    Even as we live our lives and have our experiences, we can maintain a fundamental view of others as people with the potential to connect meaningfully with us. Through times of connection, we all learn something new about ourselves. Different teachers and mentors will come into our lives through our relationships.

    It’s human nature to look to others to make us feel good. One of the best feelings ever happens when we look into someone’s eyes as we laugh with them. It’s so easy to appreciate the moment when that happens. But remember, no one else is responsible for how you feel. Would you even want them to be? I don’t care to be that dependent on anyone! I don’t control how others feel, and no one but me controls how I feel.

    You are worthy, and your perspective is valid. You have a unique point of view, and it matters. You matter whether anyone else recognizes that at any moment or not. Do not be dependent on other people’s opinions of you for your own happiness!

    That being said, strive to make appreciation the whole point of your interaction with others. That appreciation will strengthen you, even though, at first glance, it might feel like something you are doing for someone else.

  • Energy Management

    If what you’re thinking about makes you feel bad, it affects your energy level in a bad way. It lowers your vibe. If you’re thinking about something that makes you feel bad, you will quickly start to feel stressed or tired or just generally have a bad attitude.
    On the other hand, if what you’re thinking about makes you feel good, it affects your energy level in a good way. It raises your vibe. It doesn’t matter if what you’re thinking about it is true or not. What matters is if it helps you feel good.

  • Have Fun With It

    It’s important to enjoy feelings of happiness and general wellbeing as much as possible. To do that, notice how you feel. Have strategies at the ready to lift yourself up when you find yourself down.

    When down, do the work to change your perspective. First of all, realize it’s a temporary feeling that will soon pass. Next, intentionally change your focus. Below are ideas. Discover more strategies for yourself too.

    Think about a favorite memory or daydream the future.
    Notice beautiful sights and sounds.
    Anticipate exciting events and opportunities coming up.
    Have your favorite food or drink or enjoy a bath or a nap.
    Take score of all that you want for yourself in your imagination.

    Practice the skill of learning to change your focus to feel better. Use it to feel better when you already feel good too. There is always another level.

  • Tiny and Powerful Shifts

    There is power in tiny mindset shifts. Like a breath of fresh air, you can turn a habitual thought around — and it doesn’t take much. With clarity of intention and presence of mind, you can make new distinctions that change your whole perspective.

    Knowing the feeling you are seeking makes all the difference. Now you know what thoughts to keep and reproduce. Once that tiny shift in perspective is found, it brings a refreshing outlook that has the power to help you improve your results across the board.